wpchui
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Posted:Wednesday 08 August 2007,10:45:40 PM

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Alfred, so sad to hear that. Hope you will find your true love soon. There are still nice woman out there, looking for nice men. Dont give up hope. God bless.

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Hi Alfred,

How are you now? Hope you are doing good. How is your business?

Wish you good luck. GOD Bless you,

kristyc
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Posted:Saturday 16 June 2007,11:49:00 AM

Alfred, so sad to hear that. Hope you will find your true love soon. There are still nice woman out there, looking for nice men. Dont give up hope. God bless.

SWEESIM
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Posted:Thursday 12 April 2007,3:44:41 PM

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Wow so many talks of man betraying women. lol. How about women betraying man. The odds are just as much. I know as much married man who had affair as married woman having affair. The think is nobody is perfect, the universer is infinite and it will curve to a point that they will meet. And when they do, only then, will you see imperfection in in perfect circle.

Let me tell you gals out that a true story that actually happens to me.

I was married to a woman for 6 years. She was a normal working girl. Like the girl next door type. I gave up everything I had in Singapore to come live in Malaysia because she likes it here more. During my time, whether before or after marriage, I have many "profound moment" that allow my ego to wave through manhood. Although I just a average or even below average, a owner of a modeling agency gives you that opportunities.

However, I take it that I do not need to betray her for she has not annoy me that much for me to seek attention elsewhere. 90% man have affair because they seek attention elsewhere they cannot get from their close ones. The other 10%, let just say they are "outlaws", who can't keep their guns where they belong. They just have to go gun slinging.

During that 6 years of marriage, it was joyful, painful and throughout that years there were many moment of truth. The marriage torn my life, my business, my believes and my world. Everything was in ruins, ash onto dust.

We realise that we are just not meant to be together. Finally we decided to end this unholy merge and to go and make aplead to our new found single life. Without kids, that makes the transition much less painful and burden.

I gave her everything, the house, the dogs and everthing else. I even allow the solution of express divorce. I was left with my soul and pocket both broken. We agree that I would reside in the house for a few more months so I can rebuild my business to have some funds for my new life. I May need atleast 4 months time. I felt she would have the decency to allow that as she realise I gave everything else to her.

In less than 3 months, she appear everywhere with her "new" boyfriend. They dine, shop, travel and such. And then 1 night in eves of the new year, I was drunk with sorrow with my friends and associate. She came down and created chao. Shouting and screeming because I was surrounded with friends who happen to be gal in our little new year party. She even broke my phone. My friends were shock for they though we had broken up and why this commotion. Everyone though I was the evil being.

Next day when I return home, I was lock out cause the lock was change. All of my belongling, my passport, my money, my ATM card, my cheque and even my cloth was out of bound to me. Even the security guard was call to escort me out of the building.

I was in total lost didn't realise what was actually happen to me. I couldn't call anyone with a broken phone. I don't have any money with me cause all was in the house. I tried to use my credit card but it was already limited out.

With no passport, no permit, no cash, I slept in the street for almost a week before I could scrape enough to await my friends from Singapore to come down and help me financially.

1 year after the incident, I am still here in Malaysia. But this 1 year wasn't as much pain as it was before. Through private investigation and other information I gather the truth, the truth I never wanted.

She was having an affair, she wanted off the marriage but was afraid of retribution from me. So creating a commotion to sent a message to the whole wrold I was the evil one to deminish any support of friend here I have. Since all my friends here are her friends.

2 days after I was lock out, her boyfriend moved in. It was meant to destroy whatever I have here in Malaysia, hoping that I would return back to Singapore and never to see her again.

Loyal, trust, love is all I have offered. In return, this is what I achieve, betrayal, destruction and hate.

I am still here in Malaysia but not for reverge but I cannot return home to my families in Singapore unless I have heal, both my soul and financially. If I do not do that, I would have proven them wrong about my decision 7 years ago.

Today, I have not found love yet. Maybe because my shoes are too tigh to dance anymore. Or maybe to me woman should be treated with regardless love after all. If all you woman would consider us man are no more evolve than pigs than woman is as sinful and deadly as black roses can be.

You want your man to never cheat or have an affair outside your marriage. Are all your action, believes, ways and speech as it was the same as the day you were married? People changes through time. Many of you wifes changes too. These change are that of you cannot tell. It's all those small little things, the small little words that either pushing or pulling your men from or to you.

It is said, to understand marriage and it's changes in your life is to see yourself in the mirror, upside down.

Love blinds us all, does it not?

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vickylow
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Posted:Tuesday 10 April 2007,9:36:15 AM

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Btw i am very curious on how do u kno abt dis forum cos u r not even a daddy yet?

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YA YA I'm curious too. I bet Jess also the same, right?       

vickylow
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Posted:Tuesday 10 April 2007,9:35:26 AM

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Aik, well hehe. Anyway, it's always better to be with someone with love you more then you love her, isn't it?   

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Hi Alfred,

In my opinion i wud prefer both parties to love each other lor than to hv 1 party love one more than d other party.
D other party who is being loved more will feel very 'bored' to live dis so called 'loveless life' of him or her.

How do u feel if u r married to 1 person whom u dun love as much as she loves u? U wont enjoy doin things together wz her isnt it?

Whatever it is i hope ur 'scar' will heal as time goes by. There r a lot more 'flowers' for u to choose frm. Dun giv up. Like d malays said 'jodoh belum sampai' means ur 'yuen fun' (in cantonese) not here yet. So all d best to u too in ur future relationship. Btw i am very curious on how do u kno abt dis forum cos u r not even a daddy yet?

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VICKY CHONG
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Posted:Monday 09 April 2007,6:33:41 PM

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Aik, well hehe. Anyway, it's always better to be with someone with love you more then you love her, isn't it?   

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Jesst16
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Posted:Monday 09 April 2007,8:49:44 AM

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hi Jess

that's what i thought too. i kind of lost contact with them. 3 yrs back i heard they have 2 kids and are ok. so, may be he did choose the right woman. btw, she's older than him by about 3-4 yrs, dont know if that makes a difference.

hi Alfred

if 88 is your year of birth, then you really are indeed young.

take care

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88 can't be Alfred's YOB.    If yes, he was married at age of 12 then!    haha...   

88 is his lucky no kor?   

Alfy88
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Posted:Friday 06 April 2007,7:01:58 PM

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well Alfred, its better to have learn to it while you are still young. a friend of mine is going out with a questionable gal, may be true love, may be she is using him. either way, i'd rather he learns it now then when he's 60. at that age, it'll be harder to recover. i got my fingers burt financially during asia crisis. i'm glad i learned it in my 20s and not 50s when i'm almost ready retired.

so you are still young, good things will come.

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Oh ya, I still think I'm young.

Jesst16
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Posted:Friday 06 April 2007,8:09:05 AM

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Aik, well hehe. Anyway, it's always better to be with someone with love you more then you love her, isn't it?   

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True true.    It's always better!   

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a friend of mine once tell me why he was going to marry his then-g/f. he said something like "she doesnt scream back when i scream at her and she puts up with me". i guess he married the person who loves him more?

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Winn, how sure he is that the lady won't change after marrying him?    Maybe that is not her true colors?   

Jesst16
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Posted:Thursday 05 April 2007,8:23:58 AM

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Aik, well hehe. Anyway, it's always better to be with someone with love you more then you love her, isn't it?   

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True true.    It's always better!   

But sometimes when you are in love, you are blind folded.    You will convince yourself this love relationship will work even though you know otherwise!!   

If the fruit of marriage is rotten, it's good to let it go.    More sufferings if dragged on.    Well, time will heal.    You will be better.   

Alfy88
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Posted:Wednesday 04 April 2007,11:19:43 PM

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Well it’s kind of different between man and women betraying. Normally when women have affair, they choose to end up the marriage. Else men will try to cheat their wives and keep their mistress.

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Agree with Vicky.    Women has 1 heart and Men have more...   

Well Alfred, don't give up.    Forget abot her, there are still many other good ladies around.    Perhaps yr posting here have melted some mummies' heart, just too bad they are married!   

Good luck to you.

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Aik, well hehe. Anyway, it's always better to be with someone with love you more then you love her, isn't it?   

Jesst16
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Posted:Wednesday 04 April 2007,1:29:17 PM

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Well it’s kind of different between man and women betraying. Normally when women have affair, they choose to end up the marriage. Else men will try to cheat their wives and keep their mistress.

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Agree with Vicky.    Women has 1 heart and Men have more...   

Well Alfred, don't give up.    Forget abot her, there are still many other good ladies around.    Perhaps yr posting here have melted some mummies' heart, just too bad they are married!   

Good luck to you.

vickylow
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Posted:Wednesday 04 April 2007,9:05:31 AM

Well it’s kind of different between man and women betraying. Normally when women have affair, they choose to end up the marriage. Else men will try to cheat their wives and keep their mistress.

I agree that most women change after married and try to change the husband too. Else man would prefer remain the same. I do always remind myself, husband do attract the way you are before married. So try to remain the same for your love, attention, caring, outlook and etc. If we change all these, we’ll be a stranger for the husband.

We offer 100 but it didn’t mean we will get back 100. Love cannot be measure with scale. It’s just that you are the unlucky one. But please do not lost confident in women, there are a BIG FOREST out there and your past is just a TREE. Eventually, you will find your LOVE one. God bless you!

calivy
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Posted:Sunday 01 April 2007,9:27:39 PM

hi alfred.

really glad u have the courage to stand up again to rebuild ur life. love really blind us all, right?? i just hope ur next love story will be as sweet as honey, that can make u forget the past.

take care

Alfy88
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Posted:Saturday 31 March 2007,11:30:40 AM

Wow so many talks of man betraying women. lol. How about women betraying man. The odds are just as much. I know as much married man who had affair as married woman having affair. The think is nobody is perfect, the universer is infinite and it will curve to a point that they will meet. And when they do, only then, will you see imperfection in in perfect circle.

Let me tell you gals out that a true story that actually happens to me.

I was married to a woman for 6 years. She was a normal working girl. Like the girl next door type. I gave up everything I had in Singapore to come live in Malaysia because she likes it here more. During my time, whether before or after marriage, I have many "profound moment" that allow my ego to wave through manhood. Although I just a average or even below average, a owner of a modeling agency gives you that opportunities.

However, I take it that I do not need to betray her for she has not annoy me that much for me to seek attention elsewhere. 90% man have affair because they seek attention elsewhere they cannot get from their close ones. The other 10%, let just say they are "outlaws", who can't keep their guns where they belong. They just have to go gun slinging.

During that 6 years of marriage, it was joyful, painful and throughout that years there were many moment of truth. The marriage torn my life, my business, my believes and my world. Everything was in ruins, ash onto dust.

We realise that we are just not meant to be together. Finally we decided to end this unholy merge and to go and make aplead to our new found single life. Without kids, that makes the transition much less painful and burden.

I gave her everything, the house, the dogs and everthing else. I even allow the solution of express divorce. I was left with my soul and pocket both broken. We agree that I would reside in the house for a few more months so I can rebuild my business to have some funds for my new life. I May need atleast 4 months time. I felt she would have the decency to allow that as she realise I gave everything else to her.

In less than 3 months, she appear everywhere with her "new" boyfriend. They dine, shop, travel and such. And then 1 night in eves of the new year, I was drunk with sorrow with my friends and associate. She came down and created chao. Shouting and screeming because I was surrounded with friends who happen to be gal in our little new year party. She even broke my phone. My friends were shock for they though we had broken up and why this commotion. Everyone though I was the evil being.

Next day when I return home, I was lock out cause the lock was change. All of my belongling, my passport, my money, my ATM card, my cheque and even my cloth was out of bound to me. Even the security guard was call to escort me out of the building.

I was in total lost didn't realise what was actually happen to me. I couldn't call anyone with a broken phone. I don't have any money with me cause all was in the house. I tried to use my credit card but it was already limited out.

With no passport, no permit, no cash, I slept in the street for almost a week before I could scrape enough to await my friends from Singapore to come down and help me financially.

1 year after the incident, I am still here in Malaysia. But this 1 year wasn't as much pain as it was before. Through private investigation and other information I gather the truth, the truth I never wanted.

She was having an affair, she wanted off the marriage but was afraid of retribution from me. So creating a commotion to sent a message to the whole wrold I was the evil one to deminish any support of friend here I have. Since all my friends here are her friends.

2 days after I was lock out, her boyfriend moved in. It was meant to destroy whatever I have here in Malaysia, hoping that I would return back to Singapore and never to see her again.

Loyal, trust, love is all I have offered. In return, this is what I achieve, betrayal, destruction and hate.

I am still here in Malaysia but not for reverge but I cannot return home to my families in Singapore unless I have heal, both my soul and financially. If I do not do that, I would have proven them wrong about my decision 7 years ago.

Today, I have not found love yet. Maybe because my shoes are too tigh to dance anymore. Or maybe to me woman should be treated with regardless love after all. If all you woman would consider us man are no more evolve than pigs than woman is as sinful and deadly as black roses can be.

You want your man to never cheat or have an affair outside your marriage. Are all your action, believes, ways and speech as it was the same as the day you were married? People changes through time. Many of you wifes changes too. These change are that of you cannot tell. It's all those small little things, the small little words that either pushing or pulling your men from or to you.

It is said, to understand marriage and it's changes in your life is to see yourself in the mirror, upside down.

Love blinds us all, does it not?